(Uriel Presbyterian Church )
Sermon
“Love is...(not)”
13 February, 2011
Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time, A
Love or Evil? What we think, where we look,
and what we choose to focus our lives on has alarming importance.
Sermon
“Love is...(not)”
13 February, 2011
Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time, A
Love or Evil? What we think, where we look,
and what we choose to focus our lives on has alarming importance.
Epistle Text: 1st Corinthians 13:1-13 (* not the Revised Common Lectionary reading)
(NRSV) 1If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant 5or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. 9For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; 10but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. 11When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. 12For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. 13And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
Gospel Text: Matthew 5:[17-20]21-37
(NRSV) [17 ‘Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets; I have come not to abolish but to fulfil. 18For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth pass away, not one letter, not one stroke of a letter, will pass from the law until all is accomplished. 19Therefore, whoever breaks one of the least of these commandments, and teaches others to do the same, will be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever does them and teaches them will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. 20For I tell you, unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.]
21“You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not murder’; and ‘whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.’ 22But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister, you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire. 23So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift. 25Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. 26Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
27“You have heard that it was said, ‘you shall not commit adultery.’ 28But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to go into hell.
31“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32But I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
33“Again, you have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but carry out the vows you have made to the Lord.’ 34But I say to you, Do not swear at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, 35or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. 37Let your word be ‘Yes, Yes’ or ‘No, No’; anything more than this comes from the evil one.”
I don’t do this too often, because the gospels were composed to be heard, but this morning, I’d like you to open your pew bibles to pg 4 in the New Testament, so that some of what I’m going to teach you this morning will be easier to visualize.
Jesus begins this central part with “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets: I have come not to abolish but to fulfill.” and he ends with “unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and pharisees, you will NEVER enter the kingdom of God.
This is pretty terrifying stuff. Who could possibly be more godly than those who know the law best; the scribes, and those who are renewing the fundamentals of Judaism, bringing it into the (then) modern era? These are the people who do everything just right, according to the laws of Moses, which they have made even stricter by the addition of loads of lesser laws that were eventually called the Mishnah, that our Jewish brothers and sisters have learnt by heart ever since.
But here, Jesus is setting his listeners up for what is coming next. Following closely on the heels of the section that our bibles call “The Law and the Prophets” comes several other paragraphs entitled “Concerning anger, Concerning Adultery, Concerning Divorce, Concerning Oaths, Concerning Retaliation, Concerning Enemies, and so on for several more pages.
All of the passages in chapter 5 have a very particular order and a visible consistently repeated pattern. If you look at each section in this chapter, each part begins with “You have heard it said....” then Jesus goes on to say... “but I tell you...” and then Jesus seems to proceed to pile on more stuff, sort of like an executioner piling on more bundles of faggots around someone who is going to be burned at the stake. It’s as if the law given to Moses is suddenly not good enough for Jesus, not strict enough, not black and white enough, not pure enough to be used any more. In each case, he takes something that Moses taught and heightens the cliff he’s going to push you off of.
The ultimate effect is generally one of terror. In the online discussion group of pastors that I participate in, many preachers, especially women, were talking about simply skipping the passages dealing with divorce and adultery, because it was too painful for people in their congregations and sometimes for themselves personally. But I don’t agree with that. We have to deal with the hard sayings of Jesus, but we also have to see them realistically in context, carefully looking at the passages before and after to really see what is happening here.
So how do we connect the beatitudes to the “be-beaten-down”-tudes? The answer is actually not found so much in today’s reading as a page or so on, when Jesus teaches his hearers the Lord’s Prayer and the Golden Rule. This is the problem sometimes in reading the bible. We can get stuck on certain passages like “if your right hand offends you, cut it off” or “whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery”, and not see further to the larger message.
And the larger message is this: that nothing we can do will ever make us good enough for God. And I’m tickled pink to tell you this. Because that is the good news. In a world where just thinking about illicit sex is as bad as doing the deed (see verse 28), there is just no way to lock up your brain. There are strict denominations of churches that have tried for centuries to put chastity belts on people’s minds as well as their bodies, but to no avail. Our minds are just so sneaky that those thoughts are there not once, but hundreds of times a day. I even heard this week that one fundamentalist Baptist interpretation of verse 30 is that Jesus is actually talking about masturbation, and that’s why Jesus says we should cut our right hands off. WHAT? Just think of that New York legislator this week who did nothing but flex his biceps on the Internet, and he felt compelled to quit his elected office at the Statehouse and send his career down the drain, all because the thought was as bad as the deed.
Yet all of these passages in Matthew chapter 5 are part of the same point. Nothing we can ever do will ever make us good enough for God. Jesus punches this point home, but then spends the rest of his life pointing out that love can do what the law can never do. Like pearls...or more aptly...kidney stones dissolved in vinegar... the things of the law, the endless bickering of rights and statutes and points of precedence are washed and changed by love. The love of God and the love that we share with one another that we learn from Jesus. Prophets announce the absolute will of god and leave it to others to work out how this can be lived out in our imperfect world. Jesus turned this prophetic mode around.
So I’m tickled pink, this day before Valentines Day, to have this passage set before us, because against each of these passages there is an antithesis...an opposite assertion... that can be made. We heard these read in our first reading this is morning from Corinthians. “Love is patient, love is kind, love is not boastful or arrogant, or rude... never rejoicing in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth”. These didn’t spring up out of thin air onto Paul’s tongue, this self-proclaimed pharisee of pharisees who struggled with the law his entire life long. Love is what Paul learned from Jesus, though his crucifixion and through his vision on the Damascus Road and then through the followers of Jesus that he encountered after his conversion.
Take a look at the paragraph at verse 21 “Concerning Anger”. If we read this through the lens of Jesus life and the Great Commandment, we discover that we can look at it from the opposite end. Love shows no hostility. If you love your brother and sister, you will not insult them in the first place, nor call them bad names. If you have love, even if you should make that mistake, the way is always open to apologize and make amends.
Now concerning Adultery. While the 7th commandment is strictly concerned about the rights of husband and householders to keep their property safe from outside interference so that their bloodline can remain uncontaminated. Love..real love...is something else. In a phrase we can sum this up as “Love is not predatory”. In other words, Love is about relationships, not self-gratification, or conquest, or a contest. If you really love others you see each person male or female as important as yourself, and other’s relationships as sacred. If you love others, you could not bear to be the cause of a ruptured relationship and heartache.
Which brings us to the third paragraph in verse 31 “Concerning Divorce”. Love is uniting, not dividing. So much ink has been spilled over this, wars have been fought and indeed, the Episcopal church was formed in 1534 in large part because of the difficult question of divorce. Incidentally, that question was not resolved in the Church of England until 2002. Again it’s the importance of relationship. It is interesting to note that in the law of Moses there was no prohibition against divorce, it was fairly easy for a husband to obtain, and very common in Jesus day, it seems. The question is all about remarriage. It is true that there is no where in scripture that says that remarriage for divorced persons is permissible, yet when we look with the eyes of compassion, how can we countenance making people outcast and miserable for the sake of a law chiseled in stone? What kind of love is that? Are humans made for the law, or law made for humans? Jesus eventually cycles the divorce question back to the question of adultery, and again we have to state, Love is not predatory. If a relationship exists to perpetuate pain or even worse, violence, then it is not a relationship, but a torture device, from which release is a blessing and makes new relationships possible and hopefully fruitful, healing and joyful. Loving relationships are about life, and Jesus is consistently trying to build all kinds of relationship throughout his ministry, his healing and his sacrifices.
But we are not always made of love, that is why we still need the law as well, to help us to figure out where the boundaries lie.
Jesus went on to talk about the laws about oaths and vows. To put this another way, Love is unconditionally truthful. This is one that Presbyterians in particular have taken to their hearts. In fact when Presbyterians go into court we refuse to swear upon a bible book, precisely because of this scripture. Instead we agree to affirm that we will tell to truth. We don’t need to invent scenarios to prop up our truthfulness.
In fact Presbyterians have stretched this idea out to cut out cussing and vulgar language in general because there is nothing loving or caring about it, so let it drop into the cesspit where such things belong.
We come now to retaliation, “if someone smites you on one cheek, turn the other as well”. Do you see how Jesus is operating here? He says “love is not retaliatory”. Just because someone does something ugly or cruel to you does not mean that you have to hit them on the cheek, or knock their teeth out, or blind their eye. But I do think that we have misunderstood what Jesus is saying. I don’t he is saying let yourself get beat up, or worse, stand by while someone else is getting abused. Step in. Stop the abuse, but don’t retaliate. Perhaps the most famous modern example of this is the Marshall Plan that, instead of grinding our enemies faces in the ground after world war two, saw us instead of retaliating, rebuilding not only buildings and infrastructures, but relationships as well. It was perhaps the single most important reason that World War III and the collapse of the world as we know it never happened. And I dare say, if we had done a better job of this same sort of thing in the Middle East, the world would be much better for it ten years on.
Which leads us to Jesus last passage in this chapter. Love for Enemies. And I can’t say it any better than Jesus did:
‘You have heard that it was said, “You shall love your neighbour and hate your enemy.” But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be children of your Father in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the righteous and on the unrighteous. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax-collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers and sisters, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
Brothers and sister of Uriel, let us therefore be perfect in our love. Happy Valentine’s Day from Jesus to you. Amen.


